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BELIEFS |
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UNDERLYING RULES |
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a |
Because I was put down as a
child, I can never be really self-confident. |
__#9_ |
1 |
I need love and approval
from those significant to me. I must avoid disapproval from any
source. |
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b |
He’s a real bastard for
doing that. He should be put away for good. |
__#3_ |
2 |
To be worthwhile as a
person, I must succeed at whatever I do, and not make any mistakes.
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c |
I’m not getting the
encouragement and support I need to survive in my job, much less do
a proper job. |
_____ |
3 |
People should always act
correctly. They deserve to be blamed and punished for any obnoxious,
unfair, or selfish behavior. |
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d |
How can I be happy with a
wife like mine? |
_____ |
4 |
Things must be the way I
want them to be — and it’s intolerable when they’re not.
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e |
I’ve got a pain in the
stomach from worrying about the way my son may turn out. But I can’t
just ignore his behavior. |
_____ |
5 |
My unhappiness is caused by
factors outside my control. There’s nothing I can do about it |
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f |
This sell-help stuff is just
too hard. I must find an easier way. Why can’t my doctor give me
some pills? |
_____ |
6 |
I must worry about things
that might be dangerous, unpleasant or frightening. |
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g |
I can’t stand the way my
girlfriend handles her money. Why can’t she let me show her how to
do it properly? |
_____ |
7 |
It is easier to avoid than
to face up to life’s difficulties, unpleasantness and
responsibilities. |
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h |
When he hurts, I have
to hurt. That’s what love’s all about. |
_____ |
8 |
Everyone needs someone
stronger than him- or herself on whom to depend. |
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i |
I can’t see the point in
doing all this sell-analysis. All it does is make me feel worse — so
why bother? |
_____ |
9 |
Events in my past are the
cause of my problems and must continue to influence my feelings and
behaviors now. |
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j |
I’d end up feeling terrible
about myself if I started this course and then failed. So I just
won’t take it. |
_____ |
10 |
I have to become upset when
other people have problems or are disturbed |
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k |
We missed the house that was
our first choice. I can never be happy anywhere else. |
_____ |
11 |
I shouldn’t have to
experience discomfort and pain. I can’t stand it — it must be
avoided at all costs. |
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l |
I’ll never survive now that
Mike’s left me. I’ll have to find another |
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12 |
Every problem must
have an ideal solution. And it’s intolerable when I can’t find one. |
