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Introduction to REBT
Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy
Jonathan von Breton, MA, CCMHC, CAS Professional Advisor, SMART
Recovery
The central idea of REBT (Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy) is that our
emotions and behaviors (how we feel and act) are strongly influenced by
how we think. Therefore, changing our thinking can be a very powerful way
to change our emotions and behaviors.
The following is a brief overview of how we can go about changing our
thinking.
A - B - C Basics
A = Activating Event: Something Happens. These Activating Events can be
major: job loss, serious illness, death of a loved one, failing at
something very important. They can also be a series of minor annoyances
that add-up
over time: spilled coffee, broken shoelaces, a long line at the bank or
grocery store. Activating Events always have something to do with your
goals (what you want) being either aided or interfered with.
B = Beliefs: Thoughts, & Attitudes about "A"
These Beliefs can be RATIONAL (Reality Based, Logical & Self Helping)
These Beliefs can be IRRATIONAL (Demand & Wishful Thinking Based Illogical
and Self-Defeating)
C = Consequences: The Emotions (Mad, Sad, Scared & Glad) and Behaviors
that are the results of A (Activating Event) + B (Beliefs)
D = Disputes: Arguments against irrational beliefs
E = Effects: of the disputes. New emotions and behaviors that result from
replacing irrational beliefs with rational ones
People can change how they feel (Emotional Consequences) and what they do
(Behavioral Consequences) by changing their Beliefs.
Sometimes you can change A (Activating Events) and it is a good idea to do
so. However, it is not always possible to change A (Activating Events). If
you think you can, I want you to CONTROL the weather for the next 2 weeks.
IT IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE TO CHANGE BELIEFS!
A + B = C Activating Event, Beliefs, Emotional & Behavioral
Consequences,
Something
Happens
Thoughts, Attitudes about A
How we feel & what we do as a result of A + B
IMPORTANT! What happens to you does not, by itself, cause how you feel or
what you do. People do not make you angry. You make yourself angry about
what people do. Bad things do not make you feel sad or depressed. You make
yourself feel sad or depressed. Dangerous situations do not make you
scared. You make yourself scared. People or things do not make you happy.
You do! It is what happens to you AND what you believe it means to you or
about you that results in how you feel and what you do. This is pretty
good news because it gives you a lot of freedom.
If you are happy with how you are feeling and what you are doing is
working well for you, go no further.
However, if you are feeling miserable or doing things that do not get the
results you want, you just might want to change some of your thinking.
Here is where
D and E come in.
D E
Arguments against the irrational beliefs
New Emotions & New Behaviors that result from replacing irrational beliefs
with rational ones
This process may involve your challenging some very old, deeply held,
habitual beliefs about how you, other people and the world should be. As
these beliefs are so habitual, it may take some time just to recognize
them. Then it takes even more time to challenge them and replace them with
beliefs that work better for you. In the long run, all this effort is well
worth it!
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