Help for Family & Friends


Help yourself, and help your loved one, with an alternative to Al-Anon and Johnson Intervention.

An alternative to Al-Anon and interventionSMART Recovery would like to welcome you and help you find the information and provide you with the resources you can use to help yourself, as well your loved one.

SMART Recovery Family & Friends is a science-based, secular alternative to Al-Anon and Johnson Intervention. Our method is based on the tools of SMART Recovery and CRAFT (Community Reinforcement Approach & Family Training).

SMART Recovery Family & Friends helps those who are affected by the substance abuse, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, or other addictions of a loved one.

The SMART Recovery Family & Friends Handbook and Family & Friends Facilitator Manual are available in the SMART Recovery Bookstore!

Help for family and friends of people with addiction and alcoholism Family & Friends Online Support Meetings

SMART Recovery Online Volunteer Facilitators provide Concerned Significant Others (CSO) meetings to address specific issues encountered when a friend or family member tries to reach out and help a loved one affected by addiction.

Family & Friends handout

The meetings share SMART Recovery tools that can be implemented by CSOs to help with emotional upsets, effective communication methods when dealing with loved ones, and more. Techniques employed within the CRAFT Program (Community Reinforcement Approach and Family Training) are shared for the benefit of meeting attendees.

To Participate

To participate in the Family & Friends meetings, registration is required at the SMART Recovery Online website:

Online Family & Friends Meetings are Monday at 9:00 PM ET, and Thursday at 2:30 PM ET.

A Family & Friends (Concerned Significant Others) Message Board Forum for additional support is also available.

Community Reinforcement and Family Training

Community Reinforcement and Family Training Local Family & Friends Meetings

In an effort to meet the interest and demand for locally-available SMART Recovery Family & Friends meetings, there is a growing number of areas where local (face-to-face) SMART Recovery Family & Friends meetings are now offered.

Chicago IL Area

Columbia MD Area

San Diego CA Area

Loft Offices Century Plaza Building Pyrysys Psychology Group
4633 N. Western Avenue 10632 Little Patuxent Parkway 8050 Villa La Jolla Drive
Room 211 (use buzzer for entry) 4th floor, Kolmac Suite Suite B214
Chicago, IL 60625 Columbia, MD La Jolla, CA 92037
Thursday 7:00-8:30 PM Monday 7:00-8:30 PM Monday 7:00 - 8:30PM
smartchicagonorth(at) smartfamfriends(at) smartrecoverysd(at)

Belmont, MA

Mentor, OH (N.E. Ohio)

Cincinnati, OH Area

McLean Hospital If you/other family members would like to learn how to deal with the challenging behavior of an addicted loved one, call to schedule a FAMILY & FRIENDS MEETING with an experienced SMART facilitator. Please contact Rod Allwood at 440-951-1380 or AllwoodInc"at" Lindner Center of Hope
115 Mill Street 4075 Western Row Rd.
De Marneffe Building Mason, OH
Room 117 Sunday 4:00-5:30 PM
Saturday 4:30-6:00PM Suzanne Waller (F)
suzy(at) Richard C. Bozian (VA)

California, MD

Los Angeles, CA

Brick, NJ

Cove/DFZ Recovery & Wellness Ctr. 822 S. Robertson Blvd. HBH Counseling
44871 St. Andrews Church Rd. Suite 300 74 Brick Blvd.
California, Maryland 20619 Los Angeles, CA 90035 Bldg. 4, Suite 206B
Thursday 7:00 PM Monday 6:30-8:00 PM Tuesday 5:30 PM - 7:00 PM
Laura Webb (F) Marc Kern (F/VA) Melissa MacDonald (VA)
Sharon Natusch (F)
lauraw(at) habitdoc(at) 732-477-0862
    melissa"AT" shar_n"AT"

Easton, MD

Mechanicsburg, PA

Leawood, KS

Call for location Mazzitti & Sullivan Counseling United Methodist Church
Wednesday at 4:00PM 5021 East Trindle Rd. 13920 Roe Avenue
Diana Rein (F) Mechanicsburg, PA 17050 Leawood KS 66224
410-819-0529 Thursday 7:30 PM Thursday 7:30 PM
dmr(at) 717-590-7607 Contact: Dana Edwards
  Elizabeth Janis (F) 913-232-4141

Lexington Park, MD

Twin Cities Metro MN

Nanaimo, BC (Canada)

Beacon of Hope New Brighton Community Ctr. Island Health
21800 N. Shangri La Drive 400 10th St. N.W. 55112 3151 Barons Road
Lexington Park, MD Room 100B (Hwy 35 W & 694) Nanaimo, BC
Tuesday 5:00 PM Tuesday 7:30 PM - 9:00 PM Tuesday 6:30 PM - 8:00 PM
Laura Webb (F) Mark H (F) Nancy C. (F) Carolyn (F)
301-997-1300 x 804 651-464-1959 / 612-805-2259 (Mark) 250-739-5880
lauraw(at) Before attending, contact with email & phone number. Thanks! nanaimoff(at)

Sioux Falls, SD

Manchester, NH

Valparaiso, IN (2 Meetings)

Bartels Counseling Sky Counseling 254 S. Morgan Blvd.
101 W. 69th Street #100 50 Bridge St., Suite 104 Valparaiso, IN
Sioux Falls, SD Manchester NH 03101 Starts 8/27 (Both)
Wednesday 6:00PM Thursday 7:00 PM - 8:30

Wednesdays 2:00-3:00PM
Wednesdays 5:30-7:00PM

Sara Crosby / Dave Jansa (F) Chuck Novak (F) Tracy Traut (F)
scroscb3119(at) charlesnovak65"AT" tracy.traut"AT"
  603-670-5557 219-510-6501

Fresno CA

Washington D.C.

Burlington WA

Kaiser Permanente Foundry United Methodist Church, Folman Agency
7300 No. Fresno St 1500 16th St NW 910 S. Anacortes St.
3rd floor Sierra Conference Room Room B2 Tuesday 5:00 PM (Note! New time!)
Sunday 7:00 PM Tuesday 7:00 PM Rick Stockmann (F)
Robert Wilkinson (F) Bill Greer (F) 425-417-6493
559-370-5798 202-686-1133, 202-577-1664 rickstockmannsr"AT"
SRFamFriendsFresno"AT" bgreer17"AT"  

Mission Hills KS

Lansing OH

Washington MO

640 State Line Road Lansing Community Center First United Methodist Church
Mission Hills KS 68583 Scott St. 4349 St. John's Rd.
Wednesday 7:00PM Sunday 2:00 PM Tuesday 7:00PM (Starts 11/11/14)
Marla Looper (F) Jenine Zackey (F) Scott Potter (F)
913-624-9053 jazjenine"AT" 636-390-4608
marlalooper"AT"   scojenpotter"AT"

Vancouver BC

Ventura CA

Monticello IN

Three Bridges Community Health Centre 4587 Telephone Road Monticello Christian Church
1290 Hornby Street Suite 210 105 Gordon Rd.
Friday 6:30 PM - 7:30 PM Friday 5:00PM Tuesday 8:30 PM - 9:40 PM
Eugenie (for contacts) Debbie (F) Paul Rose (F)
604-714-3480 805-305-0068 574-808-0381
  aspiracounseling"AT" paul"AT"

Connersville IN

Connersville IN

Bellingham WA

Fayette Regional Health Hospital Fayette Regional Health Hospital Garden Street United Methodist Church (Meeting starts 3/15/15)
1941 Virginia Ave. 1941 Virginia Ave. 1326 N. Garden St.
Monday 6:30PM Thursday 6:30PM Meet in the library
765-338-6213 765-338-6213 425-417-6493
Leslie Bailey (F) Leslie Bailey (F) Rick Stockmann (F)
baileym"AT" baileym"AT" rickstockmannsr"AT"

You can get more information on SMART Recovery meetings in the local meetings directory.

Are you interested in starting a Family & Friends meeting in your area or for your practice? Get more information


Community Reinforcement and Family Training

Community Reinforcement and Family Training CRAFT: Community Reinforcement And Family Training

For concerned significant others, SMART Recovery recommends Community Reinforcement Approach & Family Training (CRAFT). CRAFT aims to teach family and friends self-protection and non-confrontational skills to help their addicted loved one find recovery.

CRAFT groups may be difficult to find, as this approach is very new, but more information can be found in two excellent books:

Get Your Loved One Sober

Get Your Loved One Sober offers a revolutionary program for those who are seeking recovery for their loved ones. CRAFT boasts a phenomenal success rate getting people into treatment and recovery.




Beyond Addiction

Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change 

Based on CRAFT, Beyond Addiction from the Center for Motivation and Change, offers a groundbreaking, science-based guide to helping loved ones overcome addiction problems and compulsive behaviors.


More About CRAFT:

An alternative to Al-Anon's 12-Step tradition and detachment recommendations and the Johnson Institute's confrontational interventions, the CRAFT program is based on non-confrontational and proven behavioral principles like finding and rewarding positive behaviors. It is a program congruent with SMART Recovery.

Families can learn to change their interactions with their loved one, which in turn changes the loved one's behavior. In repeated clinical trials, CRAFT's approach proved twice as likely as the Johnson intervention and six times as likely as Al-Anon to get a loved one into treatment.

Dr. Robert J. MeyersWith CRAFT, arranging for one's own safety and finding a happier life for one's self takes priority. Getting a loved one to moderate, choose sobriety, or go into treatment are then offered as roads to a better relationship.

CRAFT was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D. Dr. Meyers has been in the addiction field for 33 years with 23 of those years being at the University of New Mexico. He is currently the director of Robert J. Meyers, Ph.D. & Associates and a Research Associate Professor Emeritus in Psychology at the University of New Mexico's Center on Alcoholism, Substance Abuse and Addiction. He has been involved in over a dozen clinical trials funded by the National Institutes of Health, including Project Match and the Clinical Trials Network.

Resources for family and friends of people with addiction and alcoholism Resources at SMART Recovery

SMART Recovery provides a Concerned Significant Others (For Families & Friends) area on our messageboard to provide online peer support. You are also welcome to use any of our online resources and attend our meetings if you choose.

Things to Do If Your Loved One is Addicted to Alcohol and/or Drugs.

The above article is also available here in PDF format

Drug and Alcohol Treatment Centers and Providers

Oxygen Mask Rule for Family & Friends

SMART Recovery® Family & Friends Handout

Podcast with Bob Meyers Event Podcasts

Enjoy these podcasts with CRAFT experts Dr. Robert Meyers and Dr. Jeffrey Foote.

Dr. Jeffrey Foote podcast How Science and Kindness Help People Change with Dr. Jeffrey Foote May 2014

Bob Meyers podcast Family & Friends Special Event with Dr. Robert Meyers August 2013

Dr. Robert Meyers CRAFT Presentation Family & Friends Special Event with Dr. Robert Meyers April 2011

Recommended reading for family and friends of people with addiction and alcoholism Family & Friends Recommended Reading List

Recommended readings for SMART Recovery Friends & Family participants and meeting hosts:

SMART Recovery Family & Friends Handbook: For Family & Friends participants, available in the SMART Store.

SMART Recovery Family & Friends Facilitator Manual: For meeting facilitators, available in the SMART Store.

Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening: available from Amazon.

Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Changeavailable from Amazon.

I'm Right, You're Wrong, Now What?: Break the Impasse and Get What You Need: available from Amazon.

SMART Recovery Teen Handbook: For those concerned about teens. Developed via a grant obtained by The Community Coalition for Teens in Greenfield, Massachusetts, the SMART Recovery® Handbook was adapted to be applicable and helpful to teens. Available in the SMART Store.

See Also:

Center for Motivation and Change's 20 Minute Guide for Parents (an online workbook for parents)

SMART Tool Chest:

SMART Articles & Essays:

CRAFT information

CRAFT information for family and friends of people with addiction and alcoholism Links to More Information about CRAFT

Listen to a Podcast with Dr. Robert Meyers discussing CRAFT

HBO's Addiction Series - Information regarding CRAFT

SMART Recovery Bookstore

SMART Recovery® gratefully appreciates the support of the following organizations:

                     non-12-step rehab        Drug Rehabilitation Treatment Center